How the death of a loved one can affect you
When a loved one passes away intense feelings of grief are inevitable. Such a loss can affect you drastically, but if you can develop ways in which to relieve your feelings of sadness it can be a great help. Everyone deals with bereavement in their own way, however, the advice below might be helpful when you have to come to terms with the loss of a loved one.
Immediately after a loss, prioritizing can help you remain focused. Make a to-do list of what needs to happen so you don’t have to stress about remembering everything. Delegate some items on the list to friends and family.
Select a respected funeral provider who will treat you with respect and offer support with difficult decisions. Such a decision is whether to opt for burial or professional cremation. Cremation is a low-stress option that you should consider.
Even though you are busy making funeral arrangements and more, take time out each day to express your emotions. Communicate with a close family member or friend about what you are feeling.
Physical health needs
During a time of grief, strong emotions and negative feelings cause stress that can wear on you. Grief might cause you to feel fatigue, restlessness, nausea, and muscle aches. This leads to a lowered immune system, digestion issues, and changes in body weight.
Discuss these symptoms with your doctor if they last more than a few days, and remember to take care of your physical needs to avoid serious health issues arising.
Coping with grief
Since grief is an unavoidable part of living, it is important to learn ways to cope. This is essential for your personal health and will allow you to move forward in life.
There is no right way to feel after losing a loved one, with no set amount of time that grief should last. When you are able to move on with your life as usual, that doesn’t mean you have forgotten about the loss. It means you have developed ways to cope.
Recognizing the situation for what it is and acknowledging the emotional pain is step one in coping with bereavement. Pretending that grief does not affect us can be unhealthy and can lead to problems later.
Be kind to yourself
Everyone grieves differently, so don’t let anyone tell you how to feel. Some people might feel relief after a funeral service, while others benefit from years of counseling. Do what you know is right for you.
Loss can leave us feeling overwhelmed, sad, and lonely. Support groups can be helpful if you don’t already have a supportive friend who relates to what you are going through. Either way having someone who you can talk to will help improve your happiness or at least allow you to feel supported during hard times.
Some people find support from their faith. During a time of loss, things like prayer, meditation, and talking to a clergy member can help ease the pain you experience.
Licensed counselors are not only for people with chronic mental health issues, but are also trained to help anyone dealing with loss. Seek a professional who makes you feel comfortable so you can open up easily and truly heal.
Losing a loved one can be overwhelming and grief looks different for everyone. Hopefully some of these tips will help you find ways to cope, from seeking out a helpful friend to talking with a professional.